The Importance of Being Friends

Proverbs 18:24 “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”

Are you sensing a theme?

I am.

Friendship is better than kinship.

I hear you say, “That is an oversimplification!” Perhaps. I like to simplify. My motto is “Keep it simple, stupid.” Complexities confuse me.

I have been blessed with AMAZING friends! I am truly blessed. I do not say this lightly.

My best friend is Jesus. Ya, he calls me his friend…

John 15:9-17 “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his masters business. Instead I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit – fruit that will last – and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. This is my command: Love each other.”


God is the best gift giver. He has given me a husband who is my best friend on this earth. We are conjoined at the soul. He gave us three wonderful humans to raise. I would die for them – they are beyond dear to me. I have an inner circle of girlfriends like you can’t believe! My support group, my tribe, they have my heart…I would be lost without them.

This post is not about those precious gifts – though each one deserves a post of their own – one day.

This post is about that one friend.

The one with the history.

The friendship forged by God in the rock. Though the storms of time, distance, distraction, change and loss beat against that rock it stands.

Hopeful hello’s and tearful good-bye’s punctuate our story. Still we stand like a rock – unmovable. This is God’s doing. His purposes stand.

That’s the point. God has purpose in this relationship. With his hand on us we bonded deeply and his hand on us sustains that bond and strengthens it.

We have the benefit of over thirty years of knowing. When you knew someone at 16 and still at 46 you can still see the 16 in the 46. That to me is precious.

Kim knew the 16 year old in my body personally. She was my confidant, my comfort, my security blanket, my inspiration, my companion, my favorite. (She is the reason I’m an Anglophile. She introduced me to U2. She helped me get my first job.)

I realize I will not be able to put into words what she means to me.

Back to the beginning…a friend sticks closer than a brother…we need friends. We need a community of like-minded people for support, encouragement and love. I believe God designed it that way. We may or may not find this in our families. But we need a tribe.

*Always the caveat: We need Jesus most!

If you’re especially blessed – like me – you have a Kim in your life.

Don’t take her for granted. She is a gift.


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